Your GOALS are getting in the way of your SUCCESS
Your audacious life goals are fabulous. We’re proud of you for having them. But it’s possible that those goals are designed to distract you from the thing that’s really frightening you—the shift in daily habits that would mean a re–invention of how you see yourself.
— Seth Godin
I know that we all have things that we want to achieve… and that's great! Having things we want to accomplish is part of what makes us human, it drives us, it gets us out of bed in the mornings or keeps us up too late at night. But what if focusing on our goals is what's keeping us stuck? What I have been noticing a lot lately, in my own life as well as in those around me… it's not about focusing on the huge goal you have set, but paying attention to your habits. It's like that quote, and I am paraphrasing since I don't have time to look it up right now, "in order to get something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done" If you want to write a book… you need to WRITE, on a consistent basis. If you want to be Miss America, you need to work on your talent, buy sparkly gowns, brush up on current events and tease your hair. If your goal is to lose weight, or gain muscle or run a marathon… there are things that need to be done leading up to that goal. Essentially, your GOAL is the side effect of the habits and systems you put in place.
Big goals have a way of stealing your joy in the present… It's important to love what you're doing. But if you are constantly looking at your goal and how far away from it you are, it is going to make you unhappy, that's all there is to it. It will feel discouraging. You'll think, "well, when I DO get there, THEN I'll be happy" I'll bet you a dozen Krispy Kreme's that if you are unhappy trying to reach that goal… there is a very high probability that you aren't going to make it. You gotta find the joy in the process, find happiness in the habits that you are creating that will get you there.
I know that tomorrow a LOT of people will have their New Years Resolutions, which is essentially a way of saying GOAL, but using three words to do it. And, since I have been in the ol' fitness industry for more than a hot minute, I KNOW that a lot of those resolutions will involve diet and weight-loss. I also know, like I know like I KNOW that a lot of those will fail because they weren't goals that were set with the intention of changing habits and patterns along the way and putting systems in place. Just because tomorrow starts a new calendar year, doesn't mean you are starting over with a clean slate, you are still a product of the habits and systems you've had in place for years. So before you go out tonight, take a look at what your resolutions are and spend a few minutes writing down some things that you can focus on daily that will get you there. I'll give you some examples to get you started…. you're welcome ;)
- Losing 50 pounds would be a GOAL - Being physically active for 20 minutes a day 4-6 days a week is a new type of HABIT.
- Running a marathon would be a GOAL - running 3 days per week is a new type of HABIT.
- Publishing your first book would be a GOAL - –emailing a new book agent each day is a new type of HABIT
- Earning an extra $20,000 each year would be a GOAL - working an extra 5 hours per week as a freelancer is a new type of HABIT.
- Squatting 100 more pounds would be a GOAL- squatting 3 days per week is a new type of HABIT.
Are you beginning to pick up what I'm puttin' down?!? Goals are great, but don't let your goals get in the way of achieving your goals… start small, build the necessary habits that YOU need in order to achieve whatEVER it is that you are trying to do!
Happy New Year!