Stuck In Limbo

"Being overcome by life is worse than being overcome by death"

"Being overcome by life is worse than being overcome by death"

The other day I was talking with a friend of mine... she was talking about her Mojo and how she had thought she had gotten it back, and then realized that, well, not so much.  The interesting thing is, I have noticed this going on with a lot of people lately.  I don't know if there's something in the air, if it's solar flares or the fluoride in the water, but it seems like a lot of folks are just feeling... stuck.  Kind of like they are in limbo.  Nothing is really "BAD" per se, but on the other hand nothing is really "GOOD."  I put those words in quotes because I really don't like to use them to describe situations, or states of being because everything is relative and perspective can play a HUGE role in how we see something.  I'm sure the caterpillar probably thinks he's in a bad situation before he becomes a butterfly. 

With all of these conversations about feeling stuck and missing Mojo, I got to thinking about what that means and what can we do to change that.  I think one of the main reasons we tend to feel stuck is because we simply forgot that we have a huge capacity for change.  We get so caught up in our day-to-day 'life' that we forget to LIVE.  But while we are in that rut of work, grocery store, dry-cleaning, repeat... we get these glimpses of what we think our life SHOULD be, but feel like it "could never actually BE that way" and we have another glass of wine and watch another Real Housewives.

What I ended up telling my friend the other day... the one who thought she had her Mojo back and then realized she didn't... I think that our MOJO comes from us, we create it ourselves.  It's not something that comes and goes, it's something that lets us know if we are on-course, or if we are straying too far off-course.  It's our North star, our emotional divining rod.  There is a saying, and a book even I believe, that says we should, "do one thing a day that scares you."  I understand the meaning behind that, and I get it... but I also sort of think that misses the mark just a little bit.  I mean... spiders, dentists, and crashing my bike into a city bus SCARE me... and those are things that I don't THINK I should do.  Even on the one-thing-a-day-that-scares-you-plan.  I told her that I think we need to do one thing a day that EXCITES us.  One thing a day that pulls us closer to our dreams... to the person we want to be.  Our dreams can be big and scary (and actually...that's a great thing!) and seem overwhelming.  But if we can picture how we want things to be and fill in the steps we need to take to GET there... we can start working on those steps and that will be what excites us.  That will be where we get our Mojo.  That will be what lets us know we are on the right path.


Posted on April 30, 2014 .